It could very well be that my death arrives after eating a poisonous mushroom that looked cool or cliff jumping from an overly ambitious height in an unknown, remote island. I am all for trying.
I am curious about results, outcomes, discoveries, experiments, and explorations. The process of finding out or learning more is infinitely fascinating to me.
So I want to try. Not exactly to succeed, but to know. Of course, I know this is not the same for everyone. For some, it is hard to try.
Do you find yourself in this situation? Here are some tips and concepts to consider to get yourself to try anything.
1. Be ready to fail.
We often hesitate to start because we are afraid to fail. But are we really? What does it mean to fail anyway? To some, it is not failure that is a problem but the expected or associated rejection, loss of esteem, or humiliation.
It is us interpreting the failure, when in fact, it does not have to mean anything other than what we tried did not work. It does not make us bad or any less of a person. If we do not take it personally and simply focus on the process, then it would never hurt to try anything, would it?
2. Approach it with curiosity.
What else is there? People, like cats, can be curious. We want to know, experience, and feel. When we are able to replace our fears with curiosity, a new lane of opportunity opens up for us.
Personally, I enjoy test-taking because I want to know where I am at or if I can do something. If I can, then that surprises both of us; if I cannot, then I know I need to put a little more effort into it and have another go.
It gets exciting when we are able to stand on the edge and see just how far we can go. Growth comes when we make room for it, so we have to try!
3. Put the time in perspective.
Another common reason for not trying is “It takes too much time.” But honestly, what does not take time? Even instant noodles take five minutes to cook.
To illustrate further: This last avocado season, I must have germinated 20 avocado pits. Each small plant has been planted on our land and in five years, they will mature and start bearing fruit.
Of course, it would have been easier to just throw the pit because five years is a long time to hope for one fruit. But since I started this year, the wait will only be four years and counting. Time will pass no matter what we do. Let us make a choice that works in our favor.
4. Be there for yourself.
Think about the worst case: we failed. Now what? It can be a scary proposition if we believe we will lose everything, but as long as we have ourselves, we have all that we need to get everything back and more.
Often, we count ourselves too early. Isn’t it a lot better if we become our own cheerleaders? If in our hearts we know who we are, then winning or losing does not really change much, does it?
5. Not trying is the same as failing.
Coming from this perspective, what is there to lose? We have already failed if we do not try, so might as well try to give ourselves a small chance for success, or at least a good story to tell.
We are not doing anything crazy, right? We are just trying, so why the hell not? We can always go back, or forward, no matter what. Just try!