
Markus and I rise together and go to bed together. For such a small gesture, this habit does a lot to strengthen our bond. Do you practice this with your partner, too? This time I thought about sharing our evening routine for better sleep.
I read that people are sleeping worse following the coronavirus crisis. It is definitely not easy. But pandemic or not, I suspect tips on improving quality of sleep are always useful. I hope our simple habits can inspire and help you.
1. We have a light dinner.
Because we eat plant-based, most of our meals are light and easy to digest. Of course, we have savory and treatly stuff, too, but we rarely fall into a post-food coma. Eating fresh, whole food every day sure makes a difference. Some days we have dinner as early as 6 PM, like the retired old couple that we are, but we like it because it gives us more time to relax inside the tiny house.
2. Followed by warm drinks.
Part of our evening routine are warm drinks after dinner. We particularly enjoy herbal tea, such as chamomile or a mix of fresh herbs, flowers, and leaves – so calming. Other times we have oat milk with honey or hot chocolate from scratch when we are feeling indulgent. There is the added benefit that these drinks support better sleep and encourage tired eyes naturally.
3. We talk about our day and list to-dos for tomorrow.
As simple as our days are, we still ask each other ‘How was your day?’ every night. Most of our hours are spent doing individual things, like studying, learning foreign languages, reading, working, gardening, and so on, and it is always nice to hear about something new that the day brought.
We add to our running to-do lists as well. We find that this helps us get more things done the next day because we know our high value activities. It is also much easier to relax because our minds can let go of concerns and chores, knowing that everything has been noted.
If we had any misunderstanding during the day, we talk about it, too. We listen, address the issue, and never attack each other personally. We are on the same team, after all!
4. And make time for evening cuddles.
Physical touch and quality time are high on our love language list so we make time for it, every day, before sleeping. Some days this is as simple as cuddling while catching up on our favorite videos on YouTube. Often, Markus watches politics, history, and video games, while I indulge my love for plants and food. We are also greedy for belly rubs, back rubs, and head massages. How can anyone not sleep well after that?
5. We do not use our phones in bed.
This is a big one. After showering and brushing our teeth, we go to bed and place our phones on flight mode. Sometimes we do not even carry it to the loft of the tiny house where we sleep.
It is just easier to wind down and disconnect. We are not tempted to look at anything and the chances of anyone pulling us away from sleep are gone. See, when we give our eyes and brains the opportunity to wind down correctly, sleep will definitely be close by! But we have to consciously create these moments for better sleep.
6. Rinse and repeat.
Having an evening ritual is a powerful tool for better sleep. Doing these things every night signals our body that we are heading for bed soon. It creates a healthy rhythm and the more we are able to do it, the better rest we have.
Of course, after saying good morning when we wake up, the next question we ask each other is “How did you sleep?” More often than not, we are able to enjoy restorative sleep that feels really good for the mind and body. We hope you are able to experience quality sleep more frequently, too!
This is such a timely article because I’ve been having trouble sleeping lately. Maybe I should tweak my bedtime routine with some of the tips here. I particularly agree with #5 and I think I should put my phone outside my bedroom from now on. Thanks for sharing!
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Oh, sorry to hear you are having trouble sleeping. Do you know why? And yes, keeping the phone out lessens the temptation. You will have to convince yourself to get up first!
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Disconnecting from our phones is a good one which I’m trying to do more consistently. Sometimes the urge to read something in bed is great, so I keep a paperback nearby. Can backfire if the story’s too good though!
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Totally understand. At least there is no glare from the book! And if it is an awesome book, then it would have been worth it.
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I agree! 😊
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Love your routine 💗 Since my husband and I are co-sleeping with our 4 yo, our evenings are always unpredictable. when we do get a few hours to ourselves, we spend it drinking cold milk and just winding down. Complete fail on the no phones at bedtime rule, though 😂 agree it would be a big help if we can log off 100% .
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At least your evenings are never boring. Haha! Cold milk while winding down sounds nice. Have you ever tried drinking milk with a bit of honey? It is like a custard then.
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I haven’t. Will try that next time 🤩 thanks!
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Thanks for sharing. Your tips are so simple but is actually so hard to do especially for couples who have built such an impersonal routine like us. Reading your post made me realize how mechanical we are as a couple.
Thank you, I will share this article with him and perhaps we can start with drinking tea tonight… 😀
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That will be cool. Please update us with how the tea went!
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It sounds like you have your evening routine down and that it works wonderfully for you! I wish we could incorporate one! Don’t even get me started. I agree with you that this pandemic has created anxiety for many and that, of course, contributes to insomnia. I’m trying to go to sleep earlier, but…once I get off-track (this happens frequently), it’s difficult to get back on that routine. We lead simple yet complicated lives in our household. Mona
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Yes, it is easy to get sidetracked. It happens to us at times as well. Hopefully a vaccine arrives soon so people can relax more. It is definitely not easy to get by these days.
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Very interesting…
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Hello, thank you for visiting. What is your evening routine?
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These are some good tips, I know whenever I overdo it for dinner I don’t sleep as well as when I do when it’s light. Sometimes when the crazy old man who hangs out on the road sometimes is being horrible and loud I will play sleep music on youtube.
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Do you not fall into a food coma? Haha. But I see what you mean. It is just, heavy. And the feeling persists in the morning. I find that I enjoy waking up light and refreshed with an empty belly. And ready for a nice breakfast! The sleep music idea is very good. I hope the old man is not often loud.
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The perfect routine for a successful night’s sleep, ensuring sound rest and a good morning’s start!
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Yes! We also wake up early so it works out well.
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Super… !!
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These are great tips for having a better sleep. I stopped using a night light for this reason. Totally agree with the warm drinks. Thanks for sharing all of this!
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Yes, we do have a moon lamp but the darkness, early at that, sure helps. I think it tricks the body, in the same way that blackout curtains work.
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This is so beautiful ,am not sure I can comment right since I have no experience of these.
Personally sleep is a lost card on the table for me and yes it worsened in the pandemic
Soaking it in thou,beautiful.
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Oh no. Why is sleep a lost card for you?
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Am not certain why but I haven’t slept well in a long time and Quarantine worsened it. Trying to do research will write about it when I find a solution and the why
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Okay, looking forward to reading it. The article I read mentioned the stress brought by the lockdown messes up the sleep of people more.
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signing off from your phones is awesome! very impressive and sensible routine! thanks for sharing 🙂
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Thank you. It is just so tempting otherwise to watch one more video or check social media again. Before you know it, an hour has gone! Do you disconnect regularly, too?
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not as often as i would like. more so now, i keep my phone open when my son and daughter-in-law are working night shift. they’re both nurses.
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My mother does the same! My sister is a critical nurse, too. I hope your son and daughter-in-law are staying safe and healthy while working during this pandemic. Is it still bad where they are?
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not as bad as the other states. i think people here are finally getting “it”. thank you. 🙂
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That is good to know. Stay safe and healthy!
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You guys are stinking cute! It’s almost as though you’re the same person 😊
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Thank you, Shelly. Interestingly, our MBTI difference is only one letter! INTP and INFP.
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You’ve got me beat as I have dinner at 4:30 when I come home from school.🤣
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Does your tummy last until the night? Sometimes when we eat too early we get munchies!
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Yup I don’t eat again until the morning when I get up.
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You are far superior than us. Haha!
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No it’s just a very slippery slope for me🤣
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What kind of dinner do you usually have?
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I prefer a snack dinner-so chicken pieces, veggies, hummus, etc
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We love hummus with our handmade chapatis, too! Wishing we could have you on our table and have a nice dinner together – with the sun up. Haha!
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Lol that would be fun, though of course there are no dinner parties right now. At least I have sunshine today:)
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We can wait, fortunately. Sun today? Good. But the weather has been bad lately or? We also had good weather today, which is lucky as we were target shooting.
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We’ve had rain for the last week and it looks like it’s coming back Tuesday or Thursday
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Stay safe and dry then, AJ!
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I’m just hoping for a dry run today
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Well, I’m no stranger to any of these things. But long before screens were thought of, I’ve been an appalling sleeper. So much so, that my husband and I no longer share a room at night – we disturbed each other so much. I’ve learnt to accept that sleep and I just don’t mix, which makes it slightly easier. But it would be lovely, just once, to sleep through the night!
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Have you ever seen a doctor for your condition? It sounds so frustrating. I cannot imagine what it is like to have a chronic sleeping problem. Does it affect your health or?
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